Coffee. A way of life to some, and to others a means to fuel each hazy morning. From the millennial sipping on their instagrammable paper cup to the middle aged mechanic with his morning brew – we all have a little time for a cup of Arabica. Myself for example, I’ve had a tumultuous relationship with it. Starting out like most- with an utter disgust for the smell let alone taste – reminding me of my french teacher : a certain je ne sais pas.
Then I reached 16 and it was cool to have an iced drink doused in sugar, cream and syrup. I realised quickly that this was not sustainable for both my health and wallet at almost 3.50 a pop. Exams came and the next rung up Jacob’s ladder was the warm embrace of a hot, smooth milky latte – essentially an adult milkshake, not proper coffee but not all milk – so 100% judgement free!
And then one summer I became a fully fledged adult – I moved on to the big boy – a nice, fresh Cup of Joe.
But how does a cup of coffee become anthropomorphised into Joe? And why Joe and not Tom, Dick or Harry?
The origins of this phrase are thought to originate on the sails of the American Navy in the early 20th century . Josephus Daniels held the elusive role of Secretary of the Navy and his lasting legacy was that of banning alcohol on navy ships. Like flotsam, the sailors found themselves lost at sea and so replaced a cold beer with plenty of hot coffee – naming it aptly after the man causing their caffeine fuelled vendetta.
Another belief is that Joe is used to represent that it is a drink of any man and everyman – Joe around the corner enjoys a coffee so why shouldn’t you?
All I know is that life is too short for bad coffee – in an instant it will all be over . All the memories of the past will filter through your mind and you’ll ask yourself if given another shot would you have done anything differently?
Open your eyes – it’s time to wake up and smell the coffee.
There is possibly nothing worse than an awkward silence – where thirty seconds feels as if the universe could have been destroyed, dissolved and reborn all in that moment.
They say that silence is golden – but there comes a time when somethings are not worth their weight in gold, and awkward first encounters , and the potential chorus of silence that can ensue from them – is one.
Don’t get me wrong – you can have silence that doesn’t invoke terror . In fact those moments are one of the most humbling of all – to be so comfortable with someone that there are no need for words and just being is enough. Alas analysing even those relationships you realise that everything always has to start somewhere. Everything has a beginning – a first encounter.
Sometimes meeting new people is an informal thing and sometimes not. Sometimes it’s a group activity day organised by the powers high up at work to boost sales by strengthening team morale. Sometimes it’s a friend introducing you to a mutual friend and as a result you all having to try and find common ground.
But what is the default setting amongst these type of encounters? It’s the need to
Break the Ice.
Breaking the ice is often used to describe trying to make small dents in the citadel of a introductory social meeting. It is the act of trying to make thing less awkward , to get things going .
But are things always so frosty? Where did breaking the ice come from ?
It is thought that the saying originated back when shipping was the main mode of both transportation and trade. Naturally shipping in the winter was hindered by the cold weather and port harbours would lose out on trade due to ships being frozen in ice at sea. The trading town would send out small ships known as “ice breakers” to sail towards the frozen cargo , thus creating a break in the ice behind it and forming a path for the frozen ship to follow back to the port. And so breaking the ice came about. Ice breakers- the small ships sent out to rescue the frozen trade ships – allowed the port harbours to continue to trade and thrive throughout winter months.
Simon and Garfunkel once said that : ” No one dared disturb the sound of silence,” but alas all they needed was a good ice breaker !